New York Matchmaker for Asian Professionals

AWM Love is a New York matchmaker for accomplished Asian and Asian American professionals, offering private, screened introductions across Manhattan, Brooklyn and the greater New York area. We bring a high-touch, deeply personal approach to every introduction — no algorithms, no public profiles, no swiping.

Looking for the best Asian matchmaker in New York? Cassindy Chao and her team at Ancient Wisdom Modern Love serve successful singles across Manhattan, Brooklyn, Queens, and beyond — helping you find meaningful, lasting relationships. We don’t just plan dates; we create introductions that lead to love, commitment, and thriving partnerships. Are you ready to meet your match?

Our NYC Matchmaking Process

It All Starts With Learning About You and….Who You’d Love to Meet.

Ancient Wisdom Modern Love (AWML) is not your grandmother’s matchmaker. We aren’t here to “arrange” a marriage or match two families or find you a merely “suitable” prospect. Our goal is your goal – to find you a deep connection leading to a vibrant relationship where both people thrive — to find “the One” for you.

Born in New York, I’m a former Goldman Sachs and JP Morgan Securities investment banker who has been connecting great people since my college days. My own finance career started in Manhattan and I worked long hours, so I understand where many of my clients are coming from — that drive, that focus, the ambition. Our focus areas are UHNW and educated, ambitious professionals.

Learning about your personal and dating goals helps us to find the right people for you. Every engagement begins with a private, in-depth consultation. We take the time to understand not just what you’re looking for, but who you are — your values, your lifestyle, your long-term vision. From there, we handcraft each introduction personally, drawing on our curated network of exceptional singles.

Who I work with in New York

We work regularly with the best people in New York — Manhattan, Brooklyn and beyond. And often they are busy: they work in finance, tech, law, medicine, and their time matters.

Why dating in New York is harder than it should be

The hours own you. Finance, law, medicine, tech — the calendar is not yours. You are not going to meet your person at 9pm on a Thursday when you’re still at the desk, and the weekend gets spent recovering. That’s not a discipline problem. It’s a structural one.

The city gives you volume, not depth. There are millions of single people within a few subway stops. That should make this easy — it doesn’t. Endless options make everyone feel replaceable, and it is very easy to spend three years dating constantly and building nothing.

Your borough is a bubble. People say “New York” and mean a twenty-block radius plus the two neighborhoods their friends live in. Someone on the Upper East Side and someone in Fort Greene are thirty minutes and two different lives apart.

You’re evaluating instead of connecting. The skills that built your career — the metrics, the diligence, the interviewing — actually work against you here. Trust, feelings and laughter should not be constantly evaluated and tested. Our job is to do some of that thinking for you, so you can just show up.