Chinese Matchmaker
Chinese Matchmaker — 紅娘
In Chinese culture, the 紅娘 — literally "Red Lady" — is the trusted matchmaker who brings two people together with wisdom, discretion, and deep knowledge of both families and individuals. The tradition stretches back centuries, rooted in the belief that finding a life partner is too important to leave to chance — and too personal to leave to an algorithm.
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Cassindy Chao is a former Goldman Sachs investment banker turned-expert matchmaker, author, and speaker specializing in relationship-building and leadership development. She is the founder of Ancient Wisdom, Modern Love, an elite matchmaking practice for high-net-worth professionals. She is also the author of the best-seller Ancient Wisdom, Modern Love: A Practical Guide to Modern Dating. With a background in investment banking at J.P. Morgan and Goldman Sachs, Cassindy understands high-stakes relationship management. She has also raised three young adults and is married to her husband of 27 years and been a caregiver for their parents. Cassindy is committed to her community and serves in various roles at Asian Health Services, the NY Asian Film Festival, and as the co-President of the Wellesley College Asian Alumnae Alliance. Featured in Business Insider, NBC Daily News, News Nation, CHIEF, and Janet Hanson’s book More Than 85 Broads, and speaker at notable university clubs (Harvard Club of NYC and the Penn Club of NYC). Cassindy shares actionable relationship strategies with executives and professionals so they can cultivate connections that drive success in family and relationships
Who We Match
AWM Love's Chinese matchmaking practice serves Chinese-American and Taiwanese-American professionals, as well as non-Chinese singles who are seeking a culturally sophisticated, internationally minded partner. Our clients are typically executives, entrepreneurs, physicians, attorneys, and UHNW individuals who value discretion, cultural fluency, and genuine personal attention. We work across San Francisco and the Bay Area, Los Angeles and the South Bay, and New York City — with a network that extends internationally.
A matchmaker rooted in tradition
Third-generation 紅娘 expertise, carried forward with modern discernment.
Private, personal introductions for accomplished professionals who value discretion.
Culturally fluent matchmaking across San Francisco, Los Angeles, New York City, and beyond.
Ready for a real introduction?
If your result makes you curious about what a personal introduction feels like, let’s talk. The first call is free — and it might be the most important conversation you have this year.
