Asian Matchmaker in San Francisco
Best Matchmaking for Bay Area Professionals
AWM Love is San Francisco's premier Asian matchmaking service, specializing in personal and thoughtful introductions for high-achieving professionals, executives, and UHNW singles across the Bay Area. Whether you're in SoMa, the Peninsula, the East Bay, or Silicon Valley, we bring the same intentional, caring approach to every introduction for you. This is where I raised my children to young adults, and where my community matters where I run a local mahjong social group with over 60 members and run dating and networking events in San Francisco, Palo Alto, Cupertino and Oakland.
Founded by Cassindy Chao — a third-generation Chinese matchmaker, former Goldman Sachs and JP Morgan investment banker — AWM Love draws on years of matchmaking experience and the ancient wisdom of Chinese 紅娘 tradition as a 3rd generation matchmaker. Cassindy has been featured in Business Insider, NBC News Daily, and ABC News.
She lives in tthe East Bay with her husband of 27 years and launching their three young adults.
Who I work with in the Bay Area
It All Starts With Learning About You and….Who You’d Love to Meet.
My Bay Area clients are founders, developers, partners, doctors, educators and VCs. They are all incredibly good at their jobs. They are smart, impatient and 100% sincere. Much like my own family of scientists and engineers. They’ve built and optimized so much - when it’s time for finding their partner - they are ready to meet their matches.
Why dating is harder here than it should be
Your entire social circle is your coworkers. The hours are long, builds are intense. Teamwork is great and sometimes there are relationships but often the dating pool is limited. The people you know are the people you work with. That's not a personality problem. It's a structural one.
The skills that built your career are working against you. You're decisive, you optimize, you have high standards and the data to back them. All of that is why you're successful. None of it helps here. Logic is important but most of my clients do not have all the data to make a full decision. We’ve been at the intersection of new relationships and also seeing why so many relationships have fallen apart - that knowledge, those learnings and metrics inform us as we make matches and recommendations.
You're evaluating like an investor and dating like a recruiter. You know that a great story with no fundamentals is a bad bet. You'd never fund it. But you'll go on four dates with someone because the résumé is impressive, and then wonder in month three why it feels like nothing. Why not have someone who has been partnered for decades help pick someone for you? Relationships run on patience, emotional availability, and a willingness to be influenced — and there's no framework for that.
The geography is a trap. The Peninsula and the city are forty minutes (on a good day) and two different lives apart. People say "Bay Area" and mean a fifteen-mile bubble. So many people work in South Bay and try to live in the city - they end up commuting and often too tired to even date well. Our job is to find the matches and save you time.
Ready to be matched?
What a Goldman Sachs Banker Learned About Love | Matchmaker Cassindy at GMF
My Own Dating Story - How I Married a Software Developer
Years later, I met the right man but almost missed him
My husband and I met at a party - We saw each other and I dismissed him as too casual, too “happy” while I was in focused on another shiny guy. Yet every time our paths crossed, I liked him more and more, he was steadfast, funny, and always there for me. It took a lot to not overthink things either as he was not the shiny finance guy that I had envisioned - yet he was better for me - and over 27 years later we’re still together, cared for ailing parents, and raised 3 young adults. It’s that perspective about what really matters in a true marriage - it’s that rationale that I bring to my clients.
More on what a third-generation 紅娘 actually does →
So often my clients are ambitious, smart, and have a list. That was me.
I was engaged - very briefly - to a man who had it all on paper. He proposed, my parents were aghast. He had the ivy league pedigree, worked in finance, and often bought me expensive designer gifts. I was head-over-heels thinking that those factors mattered. Things fell apart when I saw how he treated his own parents and it seemed disrespectful and arrogant. I didn’t date seriously for years afterwards.
Let’s Find You Your Partner
Recent Client Success Stories
D.K.
Divorced, 52, cardiologist who had found it hard to draw boundaries in her work and personal life. It was important for her to find someone who was intellectual, financially sound and in the same stage of life where work was important but not paramount. She met a reknowned scientific researcher and they are paired up and have met each other’s families.
Physician
R.C
Transplant from the midwest, raised his 2 sons in California and stayed. Following a difficult divorce, we worked to find him warm, emotionally evolved matches. After only a handful of matches, we were able to narrow down to his type and requirements. He’s matched with an intelligent doctor.
Biotech Executive
NBC News Daily with Cassindy Chao
CASSINDY FEATURED IN
FAQs
Do you only work with Asian clients?
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No. I'm a third-generation Chinese matchmaker and that shapes how I work — I take family, culture, and long-term compatibility seriously. But my clients are all backgrounds. What they have in common is that they're serious.
I’m in Marin - do you work up here?
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Of course! My recent clients are from Sonoma down to Saratoga and inland to Danville. Of course, most of my clients are matches are concentrated in SF, San Mateo, Palo Alto and Oakland.
What does a matchmaker cost in the Bay Area
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There is no menu price. Let’s talk it through so I can understand your needs and share some options.
I have not dated a lot.
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Not a problem. Your focus has been elsewhere. We have tactical steps that up your dating game and help you meet the right person.
Matchmaker Services
FEATURED EVENTS & TALKS
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Love Potion #9 Halloween Mixer
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Date Night
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NYC Rooftop Cocktail Mixer
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Ivy Happy Hour:
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LA Business Mixer
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LA Cocktail Mixer
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NYC Matchmaker Mixer
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Summer Dating Social With Matchmaker Cassindy
Testimonials
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Cassindy introduced.
Our backgrounds were very similar, and we had lot in common, yet we would not have met without her nudge. We fell in love the day we first met and we’ve been married ever since. Cassindy is our trusted friend for life!
KS & BN
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We Found Marriage
Getting married during pandemic was an adjustment and we made it work. Now you can add another success story to your list!
PL & RS
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Experienced Matchmaker.
Cassie has been a matchmaker since her college days at Wellesley. She helped me identify my now husband. He is my one true love. He understands, accepts, and celebrates me. Without her sage advice, I would not be married today.
SC & MD
Wisdom Hub - Blog
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9 Things to Never Do in the First Month of Dating: A Guide
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Top 9 Signs of Chemistry on a First Date
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Checklist of Love: What to Look for in a Partner
Let’s Find your Match Today!
We help our clients find extraordinary matches and often move beyond old expectations, stereotypes, habits and blockers and make sure they are ready for their last (and best) relationship.
